也许你不知道 影响孩子一生的四种重要品质
温哥华港湾（BCbay.com）网友奇奇爸：10岁的大女儿到MACC（Multi-Age Cluster Class）班已经有一个月了，我无意中在女儿的活页夹中发现一篇题为“Intelligence Is Overrated: What You Really Need To Succeed”的文章，女儿说，是老师让每一个MACC班的同学阅读的。我一口气读完了这篇文章，觉得很有亮点。除开IQ（智商），EQ（情商）这两个熟悉的术语以外，作者在文章里提出了MQ （Moral Intelligence，德商），BQ（Body Intelligence，体商）两个新的概念，并认为，IQ，EQ，MQ，BQ这四种“品质”（指标）将影响一个人一生的成功。
文章提到的改进或培养情商，德商和体商的一些小思路（Tips），很有启发。全文附在后面，供关心海二代教育的父母们参考。
Intelligence Is Overrated: What You Really Need To Succeed
Albert Einstein’s was estimated at 160, Madonna’s is 140, and John F. Kennedy’s was only 119, but as it turns out, your IQ score pales in comparison with your EQ, MQ, and BQ scores when it comes to predicting your success and professional achievement.
Research carried out by the Carnegie Institute of Technology shows that 85 percent of your financial success is due to skills in “human engineering,” your personality and ability to communicate, negotiate, and lead. Shockingly, only 15 percent is due to technical knowledge. Additionally, Nobel Prize winning Israeli-American psychologist, Daniel Kahneman, found that people would rather do business with a person they like and trust rather than someone they don’t, even if the likeable person is offering a lower quality product or service at a higher price.
With this in mind, instead of exclusively focusing on your conventional intelligence quotient, you should make an investment in strengthening your EQ (Emotional Intelligence), MQ (Moral Intelligence), and BQ (Body Intelligence). These concepts may be elusive and difficult to measure, but their significance is far greater than IQ.
Emotional Intelligence
EQ is the most well known of the three, and in brief it is about: being aware of your own feelings and those of others, regulating these feelings in yourself and others, using emotions that are appropriate to the situation, self-motivation, and building relationships.
Top Tip for Improvement: First, become aware of your inner dialogue. It helps to keep a journal of what thoughts fill your mind during the day. Stress can be a huge killer of emotional intelligence, so you also need to develop healthy coping techniques that can effectively and quickly reduce stress in a volatile situation.
Moral Intelligence
MQ directly follows EQ as it deals with your integrity, responsibility, sympathy, and forgiveness. The way you treat yourself is the way other people will treat you. Keeping commitments, maintaining your integrity, and being honest are crucial to moral intelligence.
Top Tip for Improvement: Make fewer excuses and take responsibility for your actions. Avoid little white lies. Show sympathy and communicate respect to others. Practice acceptance and show tolerance of other people’s shortcomings. Forgiveness is not just about how we relate to others; it’s also how you relate to and feel about yourself.
Body Intelligence
Lastly, there is your BQ, or body intelligence, which reflects what you know about your body, how you feel about it, and take care of it. Your body is constantly telling you things; are you listening to the signals or ignoring them? Are you eating energy-giving or energy-draining foods on a daily basis? Are you getting enough rest? Do you exercise and take care of your body? It may seem like these matters are unrelated to business performance, but your body intelligence absolutely affects your work because it largely determines your feelings, thoughts, self-confidence, state of mind, and energy level.
Top Tip For Improvement: At least once a day, listen to the messages your body is sending you about your health. Actively monitor these signals instead of going on autopilot. Good nutrition, regular exercise, and adequate rest are all key aspects of having a high BQ. Monitoring your weight, practicing moderation with alcohol, and making sure you have down time can dramatically benefit the functioning of your brain and the way you perform at work.
What You Really Need To Succeed
It doesn’t matter if you did not receive the best academic training from a top university. A person with less education who has fully developed their EQ, MQ, and BQ can be far more successful than a person with an impressive education who falls short in these other categories.
Yes, it is certainly good to be an intelligent, rational thinker and have a high IQ; this is an important asset. But you must realize that it is not enough. Your IQ will help you personally, but EQ, MQ, and BQ will benefit everyone around you as well. If you can master the complexities of these unique and often under-rated forms of intelligence, research tells us you will achieve greater success and be regarded as more professionally competent and capable.
BCbay论坛网友互动讨论：
奇奇爸：这篇文章不仅对孩子的教育有用，也可能对我们个人的职业发展有参考价值。
奇奇爸：“德商”可以简单理解为“人品的魅力”， “德商为先”这个提法很有道理。
papaca：先做人后做事，就是这个理。
杜鹃盛开落基山：和奇奇爸商榷：IQ 应为 Intelligence Quotient；MQ 应为 Moral Quotient; I 代表 intelligence；Q 代表 quotient。请斟酌。
奇奇爸：从维基百科上看，EQ的英文全称是Emotional Intelligence Quotient，也称为Emotional Quotient；如此类推的话，MQ 应是Moral Intelligence Quotient，BQ是 Body Intelligence Quotien。个人理解，IQ，EQ，MQ，BQ都是一种 Intelligence，只是不同的 Intelligence而已，传统教育注重IQ的发展，现代教育开始看重EQ，MQ，BQ等Intelligence的培养。
温哥华一哥：MQ和BQ真的是第一次那个听说，要好好学习学习，谢谢楼主推荐。
上官天乙：然也然也，是得尽量全面发展。老毛的那句话从大体上看是有道理的，问题主要在具体操作太极端结果反而严重违背了全面发展。
薰衣草：教育孩子是门学问，教育孩子的同时也在教育自己。我啥也没测过，稀里煳涂的就长大了。
奇奇爸：我们都一样，都是稀里煳涂长大了，而且中国也没有西方那么精细的教育理论和体系。其实EQ，MQ，BQ这些人文（感觉）性质的指标是根本无法测出来的，也不是天生的，可有意识地去改进或培养。文章提出的那些改进Tips，还是有一点参考价值的。
温哥华呆叔：大顶楼主分享智慧妙文！俺说俺的那个情商咋个不够高呢，原来都是工作压力惹的祸呀，看来日后工作不要太卖力啦，呵呵！
“Stress can be a huge killer of emotional intelligence, so you also need to develop healthy coping techniques that can effectively and quickly reduce stress in a volatile situation.”
我们这儿：我们小的时候受的励志教育是“成功是1%的天赋+99%的勤奋”，这其实完全是胡说八道，和这篇文章类似，安慰一下普通大众而已。其实成功99%要靠天赋，你要成为爱因斯坦那样的大科学，没有天赋能行吗？在艺术领域也是如此的，没有天赋，再怎么努力也没用，成不了大艺术家！
该干吗干吗：这个要强顶！娃儿成不成才，天生占大成份，不走歪路，其它的，一律顺其自然！
老温哥华：说得真够绝对的了，不要说情商，德商，体商这些软性的东西，就是IQ这种看似很硬的指标，都是可以通过培训提高的，否则还要学校老师干什么呢？
北美酷爸：科学研究，高技术，艺术等特殊领域，的确另当别论，天赋很重要。而这篇英文文章所说的成功指的是 financial success，针对这类 financial success，EQ，MQ和BQ就更重要一些，勤奋应该算在德商里面吧。
墨晓：老温哥华，你说的这些在中国很难办到！
老温哥华：为什么在中国很难办到？难道中国人的情商，德商，体商和西方人不一样吗？难道中国人的情商，德商，体商就不可以改进？
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